Shame and Addiction

Shame is a powerful emotion. Many addicts carry shame. I know I did and so did Devin. Shame is quite different than guilt. With guilt, you have the ability to process, evaluate, learn, and make changes without beating yourself up over and over again. Shame, well that’s a whole different beast. Shame makes you feel less than. It’s that voice inside our head that says, “I’m not good enough,” and “I’m not worthy enough” and “I’ll never get better so why bother trying.” It has a way of shining a bright light on our flaws, whether they are real or imagined.

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Reflections

Greetings everyone! I hope you had a great holiday season. I did. It was filled with lots of love and laughter. There were some bumps but nothing we couldn’t handle. I was off from work for two weeks and that rocked. I was able to spend a ton of time with my oldest son while he was home on leave. He left Tuesday but hopefully, he’ll be back sometime in the summer. Our most exciting news, our granddaughter arrived yesterday! I'm beyond excited. I'll get to hold her in a few short hours!!!

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Merry Christmas & Happy New Year

Merry Christmas! Happy last day of Hanukkah and a Happy New Year to you and your family! You won't see me again until the second week of January where my focus will once again turn to recovery and writing. No January IWSG for this chick. I'll be spending the holidays with my family and friends and it's gonna be awesome! Have a great holiday season everyone!

(comments are turned off as I won't be visiting anyone this week. I have too much wrapping to do! the elves never showed up to wrap the gifts this year!)

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We Need To Talk

“We need to talk.” Did anyone else read that and have their stomach tighten just a bit? I did and I’m the one who wrote it…and said it (kinda) to my hubby not too long ago. Some of you may remember he had a slip recently and while I’m an understanding sorta gal, I’m not one to sit idly by when I feel something needs to be said. I’m gonna say it.

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The last IWSG post of the year!

Wait, what? As I read the question posed by the Insecure Writer’s Support Group this month, it made me realize that this is it.  This is the last month of the year. Should I feel some sort of way right now? Sad? Regretful? Excited? Anticipatory? Is that a word? Must be because the red squiggly line didn’t show up. I honestly don’t feel anything about it being the end of 2017. Well, that’s not quite true…more on that in a minute.

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