What Does it Mean to Detach? Guest Post by Author Annie Highwater

Today, I'm excited to host, author Annie Highwater. Her latest book, Unbroken, came out the other day. I was lucky enough to get a pre-release copy of the book before it hit the shelves. What I found most inspiring about Unbroken is the theme of hope and optimism that continually weaves its way throughout the book despite the tough topics it tackles.

We swapped a few emails and one of the things she said, I really wanted to share here (with her permission of course), because it speaks to that hope even while we're in the midst of trying to detach with love.

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R is for Regrets

When we’re active in our disease, we tend to be self-centered. The world revolves around us and for me, it revolved around my next bump of blow. If you stood in my way of that than I was quick to cut you out of my life. If I didn’t remove you then I lied to you. No matter who you were. Mom, dad, sibling. I didn’t care. You were an obstacle to me getting high so if it meant a fib here and there, I didn’t even bat an eye or feel an ounce of remorse as I spun my web of deceit. After all, my drugs numbed my pain, what was one more thing to numb?


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M is for Meetings

I remember when the only meetings I attended were those required by my employers. Ugh. Although one company I worked for had a breakfast meeting and each division was assigned to cook breakfast on a rotating basis. That was pretty awesome. Unless it was my week to cook. I digress. This post is about meetings, not breakfast. Although you guys know how much I love my Entenmann’s.

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K is for Knowledge

K is for Knowledge

Are any of you old enough to remember the PSAs, “The More You Know?” Just pretend that you are, please. Thank you. I feel better. Actually, I grew up with, “Now you know, and knowing is half the battle.” Go, Joe! Maybe some of you are even old enough to remember those cartoons?

The point GI Joe was making back then was that knowledge is power. And despite the hundreds of memes that there have been about my buddy, Joe, it’s true, being informed is great. But too much knowledge can also be harmful. At least it was for me.

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G is for Gratitude

I have many favorite tools in my recovery toolbox and an attitude of gratitude is right up there with boundaries and self-care. Being grateful was something I thought I already was. I mean, hell, when your husband makes you a widow at the age of twenty-six, you think by the time you’re twenty-seven you’ve examined yourself enough to say, “Be grateful for every day you have on this earth, because it may be your last.” Cause, you know, I was the poster child for that, wasn’t I? Didn’t him dying make me an expert? I sure thought so. No further self-reflection needed here, folks.

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