F is FOO

Don’t worry, you read that right. It says FOO, not FOOD. Although now I could go for some food. Hang on, let me grab a Krispy Kreme doughnut real quick. Delicious! If you have a Krispy Kreme near you, do yourself a favor and get one today. You deserve it! Also, I’d appreciate if you didn’t tell my hometown fav Entenmann's that I’m currently eating Krispy Kreme. Told you I flipped-flopped.

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D is for Denial & Disclosure

Day four of the Challenge and we’re still rockin’ and rollin’! Let’s do this, party people! Today’s topic is bittersweet for me. I decided to make “D” both Denial and Disclosure because when you go through disclosure, there ain’t no more denying there’s a problem. Had it not been for disclosure, I wouldn't be where I am today, so as painful as it was, I'm grateful it happened. That wasn't always the case though.

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C is for Codependency

I was going to write about cocaine today since that was my drug of choice, but as I was going over the alphabet with my hubby he asked, “Are you writing about codependency?”

“No, you think I should?”

“I think it’d be helpful. We both had to work through it, me especially. I think it’d be a great topic.”

Good idea. He’s got lots of those. Just don’t tell him I said that. Just kidding, I tell him that all the time. So, here we are. Talking about the word that used to make my skin crawl when I heard it, read it, and especially when I realized I related to it for a part of my marriage. See, I even had to qualify that it was a "part" of my marriage.

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B is for Bottom Line

Yikes! Bottom line, huh? Can I keep this short enough for the Challenge? I’m going to try. Deep breath, Elsie, deep breath.

I first encountered the phrase, “Bottom line behaviors” when I was sitting in an anon meeting.

Someone said, “What're your husband's bottom line behaviors?”

“I caught him cheating on me. Like online and stuff.”

 “No, bottom line, not rock bottom. Do you know what his bottom line behaviors are yet?”

I felt like I really should know what this woman was talking about so I did what came naturally back then with my bloated ego. I acted like I knew it all. “Oh, right, yeah, his bottom line behaviors. Mmhmm. Oh crap! I forgot my daily reader. Can you hand me that one?” Then I shoved mine back in my bag and diverted her question. The moment I got home, I educated myself on bottom line behaviors. Actually, I overeducated myself. I did that a lot back then.

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