Work for a cause
Not for applause
Live life to express
Not to Impress
Don’t strive to make
Your presence noticed
Make your absence felt
I have that plaque in my office/recovery room. It’s there to remind me to keep my ego in check and my big mouth shut when I have that overwhelming desire to voice my opinion when it isn’t necessarily needed or even wanted. Does it always serve its purpose? No. I still struggle with knowing when to say something and when it’s best to let people figure things out on their own. That goes for my family, friends, and my volunteer work. I am getting better…but I have some work to do, for sure.
I understand that it’s probably stemming from insecurities I still have about myself. Am I worthy? Why do I feel the need to prove myself? Will they like me? In the words of Seinfeld: Yada, Yada, Yada. The short answer, yes, I am worthy and don’t need to prove that to anyone. Will they like me? I don’t know, but if they don’t, it’s not because I’ve intentionally done something wrong and I need to let that fear of approval go.
It is better, I feel, to have the accolades from my service work in S-Anon come from within me rather than expect them to come from those I am trying to help. After all, I’m the one who gets an opportunity to learn and grow through them too. I wasn’t always able to see it that way. In the beginning, I was bummed if I didn’t get that verbal thank you but after some reflection, I remembered how much pain I was in during my darkest of days. I’m certain I didn’t express much gratitude either. Only despair. I’m thankful for those who helped me during those lowest times and now want to be like those who I turned to for comfort and hope.
Do you have an inspirational quote or sign in your office or workspace? How about a favorite quote?