S is for Setbacks aka Slips

♫ Slip sliding away…slip sliding away. ♫ Do you have that song by Paul Simon in your head too? Sorry about that. As an addict, I use the words setback and slip interchangeably although I understand and respect not everyone is fond of the word slip. To me, a slip is like when you slip on the ice. You don’t quite fall down on the ground. You try to catch yourself before you do. At least you hope you do. If not, then you have a huge knot on your head to remind you why you’re supposed to be more cautious while treading in dangerous territory.

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Treat Yo' Self aka Self-Care

I was one messed up chick. Self-care? I thought that meant making sure I was showered, dressed, and maybe had some mascara on before I headed out to work. Eyeliner if I was feeling really good about the day. Long baths, pedicures, and massages…those were for “rich” people, not little ol’ me. Turns out, I was wrong. I found out I had a lot to learn about the importance of self-care.

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After Disclosure Series: FANOS

I feel strongly that there needs to be a safe place to talk…and it really needs to stay a safe place. It was easy for me to lose sight of this right after disclosure. Who am I kidding? Not only did I lose sight of this, I was blind. I went ballistic on my husband a number of times the second he walked through the door because I was triggering. He would have no idea what was going on with me. As far as he knew, the last time we talked, all was peachy in my world. But that’s how the world of relational trauma works, isn’t it? It makes no sense. It blindsides us and in turn we blindside them.

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