As I drove to work the other morning, thinking about what was in store for me, I happened to catch sight of the moon. It was a really great way for me to be mindful and do a mental gratitude list to melt away the impending stress:Read More
I believe God puts people in our paths and in our lives for many reasons. I also believe He puts them there at the right time too. Sometimes it may be for just a moment, like that smile from a stranger when your day has just been one giant cluster. Or he blesses us with people to cherish day in and day out. Some of you may say its fate, life, or the space creatures from planet Simche that put people in your lives. Whatever it may be for you, I’m guessing many of you can agree that there is something out there bigger than us and I’m grateful for it. Especially after these last two weeks.
I have many favorite tools in my recovery toolbox and an attitude of gratitude is right up there with boundaries and self-care. Being grateful was something I thought I already was. I mean, hell, when your husband makes you a widow at the age of twenty-six, you think by the time you’re twenty-seven you’ve examined yourself enough to say, “Be grateful for every day you have on this earth, because it may be your last.” Cause, you know, I was the poster child for that, wasn’t I? Didn’t him dying make me an expert? I sure thought so. No further self-reflection needed here, folks.Read More
I’m a big fan of check-in conversations. It was my saving grace while I was struggling with trying to recover from the damage done to our marriage. Having a scheduled time allowed us a safe place to talk to each other in a calm, peaceful, environment and my husband didn’t have to worry about feeling attacked by questions the second he walked into the house. We used FANOS, created by Debbie Laaser from Faithful and True for the longest time, but as our needs changed, so did our check-in conversations. Now we use what I created: GRACE since these talks were my saving grace during that difficult time.Read More