(Scheduling note: I'm taking next week off. Enjoy the hazy, hot days of July!)
If you haven't seen it, do yourself a favor and watch it. Lots of cursing and some, okay, lots of violence, but a great movie. And Brad Pitt looks great with his shirt off. Just sayin'.
Christmas Story. Too bad it's a holiday movie. It's filled with so many classic lines, I'd watch it year round!
Here are just a few of my favs:
"Kill the queen!"
"She's so drunk!"
"Bye! Bye! Bye!"
"You got some red on you."
Shaun of the Dead
Great flick. Seriously. I love it. A lot. I'm a true fan.
Have I mentioned I adore this movie?
- Live and Let Live.
- Negativity is my disease asking me to come out and play.
- Just because you’re having a bad day, doesn’t mean you’re having a bad life.
- Sometimes the hardest decision in life is which bridge to cross and which one to burn.
- Resentments take a lot of work. They need to be held close, fed, and kept warm. Cause if you don’t take good care of them, they die. And then what good would resentment be if it died?
- Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday so live in the now.
- If I have one eye on yesterday and one eye on tomorrow, I’ll be cockeyed today.
- Today is a very important day! It’s the only day you may have!
- Are you comparing your insides to someone else’s outsides?
- Would I rather be right, or would I rather be happy?
- It takes a powerful man to rule over all with a loud voice. It takes a truly wise man to change one person’s view with a whisper.
- Humility is a perpetual quietness of heart. (from Dr. Bob’s desk plaque).
- If God made anything better than this, He kept it for Himself!
- I may not always know God’s will, but I always know what His will is not.
- If the grass is greener on the other side, it must be because of all the fertilizer they are putting on it.
- Things aren’t necessarily going wrong just because they aren’t going my way.
- Say what you mean, mean what you say.
- We are not failing as long as we are trying.
- I don’t always know how to make it better but I sure know how to make it worse but I’ll always keep on trying.
- By changing attitudes and finding solutions through our program of recovery, we can regain freedom and joy.
- We must become the change we want to see – Ghandi
- Love is less a feeling than a thousand tiny acts of kindness.
- Keep your acceptance level high and your expectation level low.
- There are several paths to the top of the mountain, but the view is still the same.
- I cannot mend if I bend the truth.
- Take the program seriously, not yourself.
- When you are in fear you should remember to go to your HP and T.R.U.S.T. = Try Really Using Step Three.
- The problem with isolation is I’m the only one I get my solutions from.
- When I’m alone and thinking, I’m behind enemy lines.
- Isolation is the dark room I enter to develop my negatives.
- This is my opinion. If you don’t agree or like what I have to say, then pray for me because I always want to improve and I always want to get better.
(Early post this week because I have family fun filled planned this weekend. Hope you do too!)
Be well and shoot me an email if you have any questions.
“What’s wrong?” Devin asked.
Do have a project you've been putting off? How do you motivate yourself?
“All good things must come to an end.”
G is for Guilt
“Mom, what’s for dinner?”
An innocent question most kids ask the moment they walk through the door. Especially teenagers.
“Uh,” I said, glancing at the clock. I wondered where the time went. “It’s fend for yourself night.”
“Yes. Again.” I was annoyed by the question. I was busy! I needed to make sure dad didn’t have a slip in his addiction. Compulsively, I searched the computer for evidence.
It didn’t occur to me that I was addicted to his addiction. Nor did I realize I was neglecting my own children in the process.
Months went by before it dawned on me just how emotionally unhealthy I was. From being codependent on Devin to neglecting my children, I was a hot mess.
I was wracked with guilt.
What type of mom put her own needs ahead of her kids? At first I thought, “a really crappy one”. As I recovered from the trauma of my husband’s sex addiction, I realized I was wrong.
I was trying to mentally survive my own marriage. But, how could I explain this to my kids? They had no idea about their dad’s addiction. I felt they were owed the truth but knew it wasn’t my place to tell them. It was
addiction to share. Not mine.
When I was ready, I apologized for not being the mom I should have been the last few months. For making them take care of themselves, and at times, me.
Rather than meet my amends with judgment or anger, my children told me how proud they were of the work I’d done on myself. They were excited for me. They assured me they saw changes since I’d been working my twelve steps and been in counseling.
My kids. Proud. I was speechless. I cried as the guilt lifted from my soul.
Have you ever felt guilty about something? Ever make an awkward apology?
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Anyone familiar with Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-anon, or any of the numerous twelve-step programs out there, have heard those words. Even people not in the rooms have heard them.