Taking the Risk - IWSG Post

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Many of you may recall I’m working on a self-help book.  It was suggested by a critique partner that I add a bit more personal stuff as a way to connect better with the readers. Really let them know what I went through during my hubby's disclosure of his sex addiction and all that happened as a result.

I was hesitant.  I feared I was over sharing – something I used to do here on my blog when the wounds of my husband’s addiction were still so fresh and raw.

With time, I learned to tell my stories and experiences with less detail but still get the point across.  So, when it came to my self-help book, I went back and deleted most of the personal stuff I'd written and stayed almost generic with my writing before I sent it off for review by my critique partners. 

This chick rocks!
I wasn’t quite sure I should take my CP’s advice or stick with generalities.  That was until I read a draft of my friend Robyn Engel’s book.  She shared a piece of her childhood that struck a cord in me and literally brought me to tears. 

I won’t share the event Robyn described because it’s her story to tell, not mine, but I will say it involved an incident between her and her dad.  I was so moved by her writing and that glimpse into her childhood, I shared it with my husband.

He was so deeply touched after I read the excerpt to him, he was unable to speak for a long time. He saw himself in her tale. He took what Robyn wrote to heart and made the changes that needed to be made to be the best father he can be to our teenage daughter. 

The transformation has been amazing.

And, it all started with the chance Robyn took by writing about her childhood.  She allowed herself to be vulnerable and it paid off tenfold.

It made me realize just how much we have the ability to change lives with our writing.  Dramatic?  I don’t think so.  I’m watching it happen in my own home. And, I want to do that for someone else and generalities won't get me there. I have to be willing to show my own vulnerabilities and detail my growth because of them.

That risk of sharing our personal stuff with the world is one worth taking.  We never know whose lives we’ll touch and inspire. 

But, we know it’ll never happen if we don’t take the gamble. So let's go for it!

What about you?  Are you holding back on something because you fear the risk?