I know I fell into some unhealthy roles before I had it. My emotional sobriety served me well during our talk. It allowed me to listen to my child instead of commandeer the situation. It kept me from panicking instead of accepting the problem. And I also didn't lash out at the person who caused the situation. Instead, I thought about it first, then responded. The old me would've reacted in about three seconds flat with a nasty phone call or email. So, I'm very grateful to have this tool in my toolbox.